How To Overcome Fear
When faced with fear, we often talk
ourselves out of taking action. Most of the time, we have nothing to
lose and everything to gain!
1. Breathe!
When we are excited, we get body
sensations that can stop us. Stop, take some deep breaths and then
proceed. This is especially important to help your voice sound calm when
your knees are shaking.
2. Remember, it isn’t
about you!
When you get rejection, it is usually
because the other person doesn’t need what you are offering. It isn’t
personal. They may just be having a bad day. Or if they are genuinely a
nasty person, they gave you a break by not prolonging the relationship!
3. Picture The WORST
Can you live through that? We awfulize
most things and imagine the outcome far worse than it usually is. Ask
yourself, what is the worst that can happen? Most of the time, you can
handle it!
4. Master The Topic
If we feel confident in our knowledge,
the fear about sharing it with others decreases. Even if they don’t see
value or agree with us, we feel okay, because we have developed an
expertise that gives us confidence in ourselves.
5. Put something at stake
or give yourself reward
A reward or penalty that is big enough
will motivate sometimes. A sales trainer coached a real estate agent in
making regular prospecting calls to write a check for $1000 to his
ex-wife and have his secretary send it any day he did not make the
number of prospecting calls he said he would.
6. Get a Buddy
Taking on something fearful with
another person often will get you through it and keep you from having
those dialogues in your head that try to talk you out of it. A coach can
also help shine light into those dark areas!
7. Talk about it out loud
Once you identify the fear and talk
about it out loud, it will often diminish. Another technique is to close
your eyes and picture yourself doing that thing you are afraid to do.
Now run through the same scene but do it very fast. Now run through it
very slow, next make it silly, make it brighter, make it dimmer. Has
some of the fear dissipated?
8. Read something
inspirational or listen to tapes.
Play your favorite motivational tape or
read something inspirational right before you take action to help your
mind focus on what is POSSIBLE rather than what could derail you. Think
about how you will feel when you have taken action. Write down the top
10 feelings you’ll have when you have done this thing!
9. Use your
strengths-take the easy way!
Sometimes we focus on thinking we
"should" do things that just aren’t our strengths. Take a look to see if
you can accomplish what you want some other way. What easy ones can you
do first? How can you leverage what you already have without having to
tackle an unknown.
10. If you have a frog to
swallow, do it quickly
Don’t look at it too long. Sometimes,
there is no way around the fact, you are going to have to take an action
that is fearful. The longer you fret about it, there more energy you
waste. JUST DO IT!!!!
Food For Thought
The biggest obstacle standing between
you and anything you want, is your lack of belief that you can have
it. Once you truly believe it is possible, once you can see yourself
doing it or being it or having it, the rest is just details. With
belief, plus the commitment to follow through and do whatever it
takes, anything can be yours.
Everything you need to get there is available to you, when you believe
and when you commit to getting there. Know that you can do it. Nothing
can hold you back once you have belief and commitment. You will find a
way. You can. Do it.
Pleasure is a matter of conditioning. A teenager
smoking her first cigarette doesn't enjoy it at all. She's almost
certainly doing it to "fit in" and it probably even makes her a little
sick. After a while, though, she likes it so much she finds it hard to
quit.
Strategy for achieving your success: Choose the pleasures that move
you toward your goals.
For example, there is just as much potential for pleasure in jogging 2
miles as there is in eating a bag of potato chips. The person who is
trying to get in top physical shape would be well advised to find his
pleasure in the jogging rather than the chips. Just like everything
else in your world, your pleasures are under your control. Use them to
your advantage.
What is it that you truly want to do? You can do it. Realize that you
are as capable as any person. See yourself doing it. Touch it. Hear
it. Taste it. Walk inside of it. Drive around in it. Believe in it and
believe that it is yours. |
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